“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
When you are born into a world you don’t fit in, it’s because you were born to help create a new one. There is nothing rarer, more beautiful and more excruciating than an individual who believes in being unapologetically the way they are. Being comfortable in their own skin, laughing at their imperfections and taking pride in them, that is what brings out the true essence of their inner beauty.
Most of us are caught up in a struggle between our need for acceptance, fears of rejection and an uncontrollable desire to please everybody. The simple truth is, we cannot. Maybe we’re wired weird. It’s a preconceived notion that what other people think of you matters a lot. Honestly speaking, it’s trivial.
Be present in the little moments of your life
Have you ever spent an entire day with a kid? Be it your annoying neighbour’s child who’s always complaining or that pretty girl who brightens up your day every time she smiles? Try talking to them. If they’re too young for it, pull a chair beside them when they’re playing. And observe. You’ll be surprised to see how a little thing, as little as an insect, can hold their attention for long.
The point I’m trying to make here is, be present in the little moments of your life and learn to cherish them. Instead of reflecting on your behaviour and if or not it was appropriate to do something in a certain situation, accept and be grateful for the way things have turned out.
Stay grounded and learn to accept
Studies reveal that the most successful people are the ones who stay grounded and learn to accept who they are. The ones who don’t hesitate to admit their flaws. They would never trade their authenticity for approval. Those who have the strength and the courage to be true to themselves- to be who they are. They’re the best kind of people.
Personality exists on a spectrum. Some people are loud, others are quiet. Some people are creative, others are analytical. There is no right or wrong way to be. There is no normal; there is only natural. What is natural to me may not be natural to you.
Your weirdness is your gift
Don’t worry about being normal. Find your natural way. Being normal leads to mediocre results. Nobody is going to pay money to see what is expected. People pay money to see things that are generally unexpected and captivating. Being weird is only the first step. It’s your advantage that you aren’t common. If someone doesn’t think you’re strange, no one would ever admire you. No one was ever praised for their exceptional attitude towards life.
No one was ever followed by hoards who are used to worshipping their sameness. Your weirdness is your gift. Your strangeness should be your greatest asset. People are going to think you’re weird. And you know what the best part is? They’re going to be jealous. It’s okay. It’s okay to be weird. The greatest people who have ever walked this earth were weird. Steve Jobs was a weirdo. Will Smith is weird. Martin Luther King was weird.
So, the next time someone says “You’re weird”, thank them and continue to find such people who appreciate your weirdness without ever demanding that you change. Embracing your weirdness gives you a new perspective. Innovation does not happen within the status quo. Innovation happens when outsiders challenge the status quo with weird ideas.