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The complex emotion of ‘envy’
It is not a very easy task to describe the complex emotion of ‘envy’. But to put it in simple terms, envy is that feeling of dissatisfaction or discontent stimulated by someone else’s luck or accomplishments. This feeling is not healthy since it creates an uneasy condition in our mind and to some extent also exhibits our weakness in accepting someone else’s victory.
Doing away with the feeling of envy
Now that we have understood the underlying meaning of envy, it is equally important to do away with such an emotion as this emotion often leads to unnecessary comparison, mental stress and in some extreme cases, even depression.
Hence, the best way to tackle it would be to not allow it to make a home in your mind in the first place. Especially in the field of business, the feeling of envy should not exist. Let us understand the three factors of envy which are involved in the field of business and the way to tackle them.
The feeling of others doing well and not you
The minute you start getting the feeling of being jealous towards your competitor or arch rival, the dynamics of the game changes. More often than not, it results in you keeping away from him or her, thereby making the whole thing even worse.
The simplest way to overcome this is to attack it. Stay in touch and maintain professional connections with such person. This will help you in gaining a perspective which you may then inculcate in your own business practices and will make you finally taste success which you may have been longing for.
The feeling of you doing well and not the others
Corollary to the first one is this. In this situation, since it is the reverse, people who consider you as their rival start keeping or staying away from you. Hence, as a reaction to this, you avoid highlighting your own achievements thinking that people around you may feel more insecure and jealous and will avoid you more.
One of the simplest ways to tackle such a feeling is again, to attack. Make a socializing plan with all such people on a common topic which will be of interest to you as well as your competitors so that they also get the feeling that you are one amongst them. Moreover, when a common topic is chosen, it reduces the chances of your competitors getting the feeling that they are being pin pointed or blamed.
Only one person and nobody else doing well
Last and possibly the worst is this kind of feeling that only one person is doing well but none else. This makes the situation worst because in this case all the likeminded people who believe the successful person to be a threat come together and join hands against him.
Such people who come together engage themselves in pointless and fruitless discussions, chatting, gossiping which takes away their time and energy without giving any desired results. If you want to find out the ways to get out of this, then try to stay away from it in the first place. Refrain from engaging in such meaningless talks which do no good to you and your business. Or as an alternative, when you realize that the discussions are heading off in that direction, try to divert it by saying that you are keen on knowing and understanding how is that person going around doing that so that I can also do the same in my business.
Even though the tact or ways of handling such complex situations may sound easy, they are, in fact, quite difficult to implement. But one thing is for sure that the more you allow such feelings to creep in, the stronger their impact is on you. Hence, before these negative emotions take control over you, turn around and shun these unimportant feelings. After all, we should always be with such people who bring some value addition in our lives and not those who become more of a burden.