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The emotion called ‘anger’
Anger can have an extreme range from mild irritation to blazing or intense rage. How angry a person might feel depends on the situation or the circumstances which made that person angry in the first place along with the basic or inherent temper of the person. If a person has a short temper, then even the mildest rejection can make him furious.
Generally speaking, when a person gets angry, his blood pressure increases. Even the count of his heart beats increase. Besides this, the emotion of anger also pumps up your adrenaline as well as non adrenaline hormones.
Interconnection of thoughts and feelings
There have been numerous studies undertaken which suggest that if feelings are detached from our emotions, then probably people who have the tendency of flaring up may be able to control their anger. However, time and again these management experts and scientists have inferred only one thing which is that thoughts and feelings are so deeply connected that it is impossible to detach one from the other. However, the key point in such cases is not allowing anger to get the better of you but channelizing it in such a way that it paves the way to more productivity.
Respond but don’t react
You may think that both these words mean the same thing. However, they don’t. Reaction is something impulsive which comes up when we immediately react to a particular thing. On the other hand, when you think carefully before making any responsive statement, you are actually responding to it. So instead of reacting at once and regretting it later, it is always better to respond.
Identifying the trigger points
The point where you will feel immensely agitated about something, but you still manage to keep quite in order to respond to it instead of reacting, you can infer that you have finally been able to do channelize your anger in a proper way.
If you want to achieve this stage, then the next time when you get even slightly irritable and before your react to it in the most foolish manner, you should ask yourself few pointers:
- What is my current emotion?
- What is the reason for such an emotion?
- What emotions should I instead experience?
Think deeper and try to answer these questions instead of shirking it off by saying, “I just tend to get anger”. Once you get answers to the above questions, you should then ask some more questions which will help you to devise a mechanism by which you channelize the anger emotion in a positive way. They are:
- Whether my emotions are intense?
- Am I able to take charge of my emotions or are they something beyond my control?
The more regular you confront yourself with such questions, the easier will it be for you in the long run to channelize your anger. This blog is not aimed at teaching you how to be peaceful and dropping your anger at once but instead of working towards it in such a way that it results in some positive and productive actions.