Life is not easy. It is full of ups and downs. There are trials and tribulations just like there are joys and happiness. There are successes and there are failures. Everybody faces obstacles and difficulties in their journey through life – no one is immune from it.  At some point or the other in our lives we all experience failure, in other words we do not reach our stated goal. But is this the end of our dreams, our life? It depends on how you choose to look at such events in your life.

Nothing wrong in feeling miserable for a while

You can think of the failure as a total failure, as a waste of all your efforts, as a negative event in your life and you can feel upset and dejected about it. That is fine – when you have put in so much effort and time and energy and still things do not work out the way you wanted them to, you are entitled to feel bad about it, you can feel demotivated and down. That is normal. There is nothing wrong in feeling miserable for a while.

The mistake is when you continue to feel dejected, when you whine and moan about your problems and your failures, when you decide you have had enough and you want to quit. That is failure, the attitude that all is over and there is nothing in life to look forward to.

Some will succeed, others will not

You will not taste success with every one of your efforts. Some will succeed, others will not, some will have no definite conclusion. Your job is to enjoy the successes and see how much further they can take you. You job is to try and finish the incomplete jobs successfully. Your job is to try and turn your failures to successes. It is not easy – but if you do not try you can never get ahead.

Failures become failures only when you do nothing about them and then quit. But if you look at failures as opportunities to learn, then they are failures no longer. They become milestones on your road to success. They teach you what went wrong, they teach you how they went wrong and they tell you what you need to do or not do so that you do not fail again. They tell you how to succeed.

When you quit, when you give up…

Every time you fall you can quit and be a total failure because you have given up on that issue. You do not have faith in yourself to pick yourself up and go on. You prefer to let go because you believe you cannot do it. That is failure. When you quit, when you give up, when you see the fall as the end. This failure to get up again is a sign that you have no hope – that everything is over.

But life cannot be lived without hope. Every time you fall, if you have hope, then you will try again, you will get up and re-do everything and you will move forward.